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TITLE: 10 Things to Declare Freedom From this Fourth of
July
AUTHOR: Susan Dunn, MA, The EQ Coach
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URL: http://www.susandunn.cc
Mailto:sdunn@susandunn.cc

"10 Things to Declare Freedom from This Fourth of July,"
by Susan Dunn, MA, The EQ Coach

1. Harsh criticism of yourself.

If there are things that need correcting about yourself, be
mindful and get to work. Beyond that, talk to yourself
nicely. Our self-talk is with us nearly 24/7, and has far
more influence on us than anyone else who talks to us. It
shapes your reality. Make sure you're "on your side," not
"on you back."

2. Harsh criticism of others.

A habit of criticizing is a habit of critizing. Most people
who are hyper-critical of others, are doing so because they
don't like themselves. Work on eliminating constant
criticism from your life. Become curious about others, learn
how to help them grow, appreciate them, and develop the EQ
skills necessary for relating to and working with them. As
Thomas Leonard said, "We're all doing the very best we can
under the circumstances, even when clearly we are not."

3. Addictions to substances.

Whether it's drugs (prescription or illegal), alcohol, white
sugar, white flour, caffeine, nicotine, chocolate, fat or
something else, start today to rid yourself of these harmful
addictions. Declare freedom for your mind and body!

4. Addiction to people.

Do you need constant companionship or praise from others in
order to feel good? Are you unable to tolerate being alone
with yourself? Do you accept blame and abuse because you
must have people with you? It's a great freedom when you can
live with yourself, though preferring people who are
supportive and loving, and enjoying them when available and
willing. Learn not to use people, and how not to let them
use you.

5. Negative people.

Negative people suck your energy and enthusiasm like
vampires. Declare freedom by refusing to tolerate them in
your life, and declare freedom from guilt because you do
this. Because they are negative people, the partings will
likely be negative (not pleasant). Accept that as part of
their reality and reshape your social support network, and
thereby your life.

6. Addiction to thoughts.

Declare freedom from obsessions. Are you obsessing about
someone or something . a house you must have, a job you
can't live without, an injustice against you, a friend, or
your country, a person you feel you "can't live without"? Is
your mind full of how things must be in order for you to
feel good? Are you "the conscience" for your office? Are
your thoughts poisoned by negativity? You can change how and
what you think. Start practicing today. If you can't imagine
how, get some coaching!

7. Addiction to emotions.

Do you feel empty or bored when not in a high state of
emotion? Do you seek out and provoke others because you
don't know what to do when you aren't emotionally engaged
with another person? Does anger damage your relationships,
and do out-of-control emotions damage your focus and
productivity at work? Developing your EQ can help you manage
your emotions, so you're in control of them, not vice versa.

8. Beliefs that no longer serve you.

Are you miserable because something isn't how you think it
should be. Are you convinced that X, Y or Z must occur
before you can tolerate life? Must another person change in
order for you to be able to be happy? Can you not be happy
because your boss favors another employee over you and
that's not "fair" or are you furious because people don't
think the same way you do, or dress the same way? Do you
believe something that no longer works for you? Have you
considered that your beliefs were all learned, and therefore
could all be changed if need be? Declare yourself free from
self-limiting beliefs.

9. Blaming your parents for how you are.

As an adult, if there's something about you or your
situation you're not pleased with, acknowledge that you are
the one who can change it, and get the help and support you
need so you can move forward. Coaches and mental health
professionals can help you make this transition into owning
your own life and taking responsiblity for your self,
behaviors, opinions, beliefs, reactions, and happiness.
Continuing to blame your parents denies you the opportunity
to make those changes.

10. That certain person.

You know who I mean. Usually this is a former lover of
spouse. Are you chained to this person by emotions you can't
let go. Are you addicted to the anger they "caused" you, so
unable to move on. Are you pining for a lover who dumped or
rejected you so that you miss real love opportunities?
Declare freedom from this person. Accept it as if you wanted
it to happen, get on with your life, and expect the best.
You deserve it. It's their loss, not yours.

©Susan Dunn, MA, The EQ Coach,, http://www.susandunn.cc .
Susan is the author of "Self-Limiting Beliefs: How to Know
Them, How to Change Them," and offers coaching, business
programs, Internet courses and ebooks around emotional
intelligence for your personal and professional development.
She trains and certifies EQ coaches. Mailto:sdunn@susandunn.
cc for information on this fast, affordable, comprehensive,
no-residency program.

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