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AUTHOR: Susan Dunn, MA, The EQ Coach
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"Emotional Intelligence Coaching: It's Not Just for
Athletes Any More,"
by Susan Dunn, MQ, The EQ Coach
It's common knowledge that athletes must have trainers and
coaches. It's a long tradition, not even questioned. The
results of the coaching are also obvious . athletes engage
in physical actions, and one can easily see the results.
They are using what's called "gross motor skills" - hitting
balls, pole vaulting, knocking opponents out, or running
touchdowns. Athletes are by definition in win-lose
situations, where the outcome is verifiable.
And the rest of us? We, too, are engaged in win-lose
situations, but they are often mental, emotional, and/or
small motor. We write projects and meet deadlines. We ask
women out. We negotiate with teenagers about cleaning their
rooms, contractors about building rooms, and spouses about
sharing rooms. We submit pleadings, argue before judges,
consult on medical cases, fix crank shafts and teach
preschoolers how to tie their shoes. We impart important
information that must be exact, and induce others to
cooperate with us. We begin out day at the starting gate
and hope to cross the finish line victorious at the end of
the day. So why don't we have coaches?
SPORTS & EMOTIONS
You see, coaches who work with athletes are teaching motor
skills, but, just as importantly, in fact maybe even moreso,
they are coaching about emotional intelligence. They are
teaching mental and emotional survival/success skills and
strategies.
Here's an example. A professional tennis coach told me the
other day that he was training a high schooler to go to
nationals and they'd been working on his nonverbal
communication. The teenager was a perfectionist, and if he
revealed this rigidity to his opponent, the opponent would
like start fudging line calls in order to rile him. In
other words, in this case, if he revealed something in his
emotional and mental makeup that could be used against him,
it would be.
Here is another visual example of what emotions can do to
performance in the sports world. In this video
(http://www.compfused.com/directlink/793/ ) the cyclist
thinks he's won the race and starts celebrating too soon.
Emotional intelligence involves managing emotions, and good
reality-testing, neither of which this cyclist was able to
do, and therefore he snatched defeat from the jaws of
victory.
Do you want this to happen to you? Of course you don't.
Therefore, you might consider some EQ coaching for yourself.
YOU & EMOTIONS
Though we may be only recreational athletes, we face
situations continually at home and at work where the
successful outcome relies on our being able to assess
reality correctly, know and manage our emotions, and respond
correctly to the situation in terms of information and
facts, but also emotions. And frankly the outcomes are
often more crucial than a bike race or a tennis match.
The most important contests we face are in the realm of
relationships - convincing and influencing those around you
when it's important to do so. How can you get your team to
meet the deadline? How will you get the raise you deserve,
or your wife to stay with you when she's talking divorce, or
your teenager to "just say no," or your aging mother to quit
driving when she needs to?
Each of these scenarios depends upon your emotional
intelligence. If you, like the cyclist, get too excited and
misread cues, you can fail where you might have succeeded.
Emotions are good for letting us know what we want. They
are not good for getting us what we want. In fact if you
let your emotions take over, you're likely to bring about
exactly what you're trying to avoid.
We know that for success in the workplace, we must develop
ourselves in terms of education, academic degrees,
experience, and specific skills. But what do we do for more
success in our personal lives? And how can we get the edge
in the workplace when everyone's doing what we're doing?
Develop your emotional intelligence. And fortunately,
today, there's a way to do this.
WHAT TO DO
Read about EQ, of course. There are numerous books (such as
Daniel Goleman's "Emotional Intelligence") and also many
free resources on the Internet (including my website).
However, don't stop there. EQ involves personal and social
skills which must be put into practice. The catch is, how
do you learn something in the pressure of real-life
situations?
Haven't you described something that occurred at work and
said, "This had to be real, I couldn't have made it up"? No
one could imagine, or therefore predict, the events that
will occur in any given day. In fact, that's the real
source of the problem that EQ helps to address: people are
unpredictable, and what works for one person, in a certain
situation, at a given time and place, may never work again.
In fact it will never occur again. Therefore, EQ is like
learning a set of meta-rules - the rules about the rules.
When you work with an EQ coach, you can learn the theory,
and then practice with the naturally occurring events of
your life, and learn how to apply the theoretical to
real-life situations in ways that are meaningful to you as a
unique individual.
If you've ever thought that the person who just left your
office had been won over and would do what was agreed upon
only to have it blow up in your face the next day, you know
what I'm talking about. Self-awareness, reading emotions
(yours and others'), honing your skills at interpreting
nonverbal communication, and increasing your likelihood of
achieving what you intend to - it's all about emotional
intelligence. People aren't logical and change isn't
predictable. It pays to arm yourself with the meta-tools
that work.
(c)Susan Dunn, MA, The EQ Coach, http://www.susandunn.cc .
Coaching, Internet courses and ebooks around emotional
intelligence for your success. We train and certify
EQ coaches internationally. Mailto:sdunn@susandunn.cc
for more information or free ezine.
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URL: http://wwwsusandunn.cc
Mailto:sdunn@susandunn.cc
"Emotional Intelligence Coaching: It's Not Just for
Athletes Any More,"
by Susan Dunn, MQ, The EQ Coach
It's common knowledge that athletes must have trainers and
coaches. It's a long tradition, not even questioned. The
results of the coaching are also obvious . athletes engage
in physical actions, and one can easily see the results.
They are using what's called "gross motor skills" - hitting
balls, pole vaulting, knocking opponents out, or running
touchdowns. Athletes are by definition in win-lose
situations, where the outcome is verifiable.
And the rest of us? We, too, are engaged in win-lose
situations, but they are often mental, emotional, and/or
small motor. We write projects and meet deadlines. We ask
women out. We negotiate with teenagers about cleaning their
rooms, contractors about building rooms, and spouses about
sharing rooms. We submit pleadings, argue before judges,
consult on medical cases, fix crank shafts and teach
preschoolers how to tie their shoes. We impart important
information that must be exact, and induce others to
cooperate with us. We begin out day at the starting gate
and hope to cross the finish line victorious at the end of
the day. So why don't we have coaches?
SPORTS & EMOTIONS
You see, coaches who work with athletes are teaching motor
skills, but, just as importantly, in fact maybe even moreso,
they are coaching about emotional intelligence. They are
teaching mental and emotional survival/success skills and
strategies.
Here's an example. A professional tennis coach told me the
other day that he was training a high schooler to go to
nationals and they'd been working on his nonverbal
communication. The teenager was a perfectionist, and if he
revealed this rigidity to his opponent, the opponent would
like start fudging line calls in order to rile him. In
other words, in this case, if he revealed something in his
emotional and mental makeup that could be used against him,
it would be.
Here is another visual example of what emotions can do to
performance in the sports world. In this video
(http://www.compfused.com/directlink/793/ ) the cyclist
thinks he's won the race and starts celebrating too soon.
Emotional intelligence involves managing emotions, and good
reality-testing, neither of which this cyclist was able to
do, and therefore he snatched defeat from the jaws of
victory.
Do you want this to happen to you? Of course you don't.
Therefore, you might consider some EQ coaching for yourself.
YOU & EMOTIONS
Though we may be only recreational athletes, we face
situations continually at home and at work where the
successful outcome relies on our being able to assess
reality correctly, know and manage our emotions, and respond
correctly to the situation in terms of information and
facts, but also emotions. And frankly the outcomes are
often more crucial than a bike race or a tennis match.
The most important contests we face are in the realm of
relationships - convincing and influencing those around you
when it's important to do so. How can you get your team to
meet the deadline? How will you get the raise you deserve,
or your wife to stay with you when she's talking divorce, or
your teenager to "just say no," or your aging mother to quit
driving when she needs to?
Each of these scenarios depends upon your emotional
intelligence. If you, like the cyclist, get too excited and
misread cues, you can fail where you might have succeeded.
Emotions are good for letting us know what we want. They
are not good for getting us what we want. In fact if you
let your emotions take over, you're likely to bring about
exactly what you're trying to avoid.
We know that for success in the workplace, we must develop
ourselves in terms of education, academic degrees,
experience, and specific skills. But what do we do for more
success in our personal lives? And how can we get the edge
in the workplace when everyone's doing what we're doing?
Develop your emotional intelligence. And fortunately,
today, there's a way to do this.
WHAT TO DO
Read about EQ, of course. There are numerous books (such as
Daniel Goleman's "Emotional Intelligence") and also many
free resources on the Internet (including my website).
However, don't stop there. EQ involves personal and social
skills which must be put into practice. The catch is, how
do you learn something in the pressure of real-life
situations?
Haven't you described something that occurred at work and
said, "This had to be real, I couldn't have made it up"? No
one could imagine, or therefore predict, the events that
will occur in any given day. In fact, that's the real
source of the problem that EQ helps to address: people are
unpredictable, and what works for one person, in a certain
situation, at a given time and place, may never work again.
In fact it will never occur again. Therefore, EQ is like
learning a set of meta-rules - the rules about the rules.
When you work with an EQ coach, you can learn the theory,
and then practice with the naturally occurring events of
your life, and learn how to apply the theoretical to
real-life situations in ways that are meaningful to you as a
unique individual.
If you've ever thought that the person who just left your
office had been won over and would do what was agreed upon
only to have it blow up in your face the next day, you know
what I'm talking about. Self-awareness, reading emotions
(yours and others'), honing your skills at interpreting
nonverbal communication, and increasing your likelihood of
achieving what you intend to - it's all about emotional
intelligence. People aren't logical and change isn't
predictable. It pays to arm yourself with the meta-tools
that work.
(c)Susan Dunn, MA, The EQ Coach, http://www.susandunn.cc .
Coaching, Internet courses and ebooks around emotional
intelligence for your success. We train and certify
EQ coaches internationally. Mailto:sdunn@susandunn.cc
for more information or free ezine.
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